Seven years itching (七年之痒)

Seven Years Itching is a direct translation from these chinese word, 七年之痒. This normally refers to a relationship, either pak tor, or after married. It means after 7 yrs of pak-tor-ying, or after getting married for 7 yrs, if everything remains the same, you might have a relationship crisis, which may end up with break ups or divorce!

So if you tell ppl that you already pak tor for 7 yrs, ppl will normally say, huh 7 yrs already, still dowan to get married, never heard of 7 yrs itching (七年之痒) meh?? hehe.. I once asked a friend, if a couple already have problems on their relationship, after married everything will be solved meh? it might get worst! my friends said, after u get married, then you will have baby, having a baby is a change to the relationship. together the couple will take care of the baby and then this 7 yrs itching thing won't happened lar.. oo... ic ic.. got such thing ar..

well, i do agree on part of it lar. when you get together for a period of time, everything seems very boring, one of them might go out to look for more excitement. therefore in order to prevent this happen, besides having changes, the couple must also make an effort to go rescue the relationship, not when the wife having baby, the guy go out and 'sa sa guan'!!

so as a conclusion, if you pak tor 7 yrs liao, faster get married and if you married already then faster have baby. hehe..if u already have kids? err..then maybe another baby? :p

No hubby, No life???!!!

I had a little chat with a friend yesterday, a short one cos i was kind of speechless after chatting with her for a few minutes. Her husband went for a business trip for a month. She was telling me that she's very happy as the husband is coming back soon, and she no longer needs to eat bread and maggie mee!!

That surprised me! eat maggie mee & bread for the whole month? She's a working lady, with a car, she can go anywhere she wants and buy outside food to her is nothing difficult. Why she needs to eat maggie mee everyday?

Here's how our conversation like:

j: me, F: friend

J: why dowan to go out tabao?
F: outside food not nice lar..
J: not nice? then go to some expensive place to eat lor..
F: eat alone meh.. nobody to talk to..
J: ya it's kind of boring, but no choice lar, if u wanna eat nice food, sometimes alone also ok mar..
F: dowan lar, why u likes to eat alone?
J: NO, i did not say i likes to eat alone, but sometimes when our friends or partner are busy, we have to eat alone lar, else, if nobody accompany me eat i dowan to eat meh??
F: dowan lar..
J: then cook for urself lar..
F: i'm not that rajin like u lar.. my house dun have fridge..
J: last time my place no fridge i also got cook lar.. buy something that you don't need to keep in the fridge lar.. cook something simple..
F: i'm not like u lar, always go shopping..
J: .... (speechless, really speechless)

It makes me wonder, how many gals out there, dont' have their life of their own? It's like everything also depend on hubby, when hubby not around, no shopping, no eating, totally no life? OMG!! I didn't know till now, 21st century, still got this kind of woman wor.. funny...

Finding a relationship on the Internet?

It's actually kind of common for people to get a gf or a bf from the net. It started as normal conversation, after chatting for some time, they asked each other out. Soon, from chatting becomes dating, and tah-dah... they get together!!

Why ppl tend to find relationship online? well, there's a few reason, after u start working, you probably hardly got chance to go out to meet new friends, if you did not meet new friends, and all your friends already a pair pair, how are you going to get a gf/bf? Another reason is probably, ppl are too shy, when face to face, they are shy, but when chatting online, wow, a totally different person. ya, i know a few ppl like tat, TOTALLY different, the way they talked when you see them face to face, and the way they talked when chatting to them online.

I also have quite a lot of friends found their partner online, some of them even got married! who says can't find true love online? haha.. but recently i heard something different.. well, maybe i'm a bit OUT and not able to accept la.. so here's wat i heard...

my friend's friend, got a friend (ya i know.. friend's friend's friend. hehe.. it's always like tat wat..) well, let's refer him as C. C was in US for around 10 yrs, then something happened (dono wat happened lar, but this is not important. hehe..) he came back recently. He told my friend that he got a gf in KL. My friend was kind of shocked, as he's quite close with C and he never heard that he got a gf, and he is very sure that C does not have any gf before he go to US. so how can C know this gal?

He then asked C about this, then C told him that he knew this gal from net. Well, normal right? ya, pls continue reading.. ok so my friend asked C, wow, u two so geng? distance relationship wor, really not easy to maintain, how many times you two met? and the answer from C? well. we NEVER MET BEFORE!!!!! shocking rite?

never met before, probably just exchanged photo only, and like tat can consider as bf/gf for almost 10 yrs? walaoeh.. u say i'm auntie lar, but i still not really able to accept that. hehe.. and not only that, they are planning to stay together, WOW!! never met each other, first time see each other and now living together???!!!!!

wow.. i'm really OUT liao la..

The age of 27 and above

If you do notice, when you reached the age of 27 and above, you will received a lot of invitations to weddings or to house warming, or to a full moon party. All these means ppl are settling down, setting up their home sweet home.

If you are also doing the same, you probably won't feel anything, BUT if everyone else is doing this but you, then you probably MIGHT feel something..

Let me give you an example, a friend of friend of mine, he is with his gf, Ms C for almost 10 years, Ms C is pushing him to get married, and they are planning to, then out of a sudden they broke up. This guy, very soon, found a new gf, where else Ms.C still with no one.

I've seen Ms C before, to me she's quite pretty and she don't look like she's reaching 30 yrs old. After she broke up with this guy, she seems very desperate in finding bf. I'm not sure whether she's competing with her ex in who will get a new partner first or wat, but her desperate-ness is very very obvious.

She started going out with different guys, regardless of age, but so far those i've seen is definitely younger than her, young as in probably just finished college and just started working. There's nothing wrong going out with younger guys, but younger guys normally don't plan to settle down so soon, they just finished college, wanna have fun, who wanna get married and settled down!

Her intention is to get married, but those guys she go out with just wanna pak tor first, so end up, broke up lor.. The more breaking up, the more desperate she is...

I just don't understand, it's 21st century now, she got the looks, she got a job to support herself, why she so afraid that she will end up alone? Just because everyone is doing the same thing (getting married, giving birth) doesn't means that you need to do so. If you didn't find the right guy, settling down will make your life worst!! probably end up divorcing...

~sigh. i just wanna say.. 女人不易做 (not easy to become a girl)!!